The judge, watching the octogenarian couple in the courtroom with astonishment, first asks the old woman: Aunt, tell me why do you want a divorce?

Opening her eyes swollen with tears and old age, the old woman began to explain:
"I had a marigold that I loved very much. He doesn't remember it, but I grew it with a leaf I plucked from the flowers he gave me and raised it. We never had any children and I thought of her as my child. After a while, the flower started to protect me. She told me that if I watered it every night before sunrise, it would do me good. And I woke up every night and watered it with a bowl of water. Until last night..."
"Ever since we got married, this man has never once asked me to get up and water him."
"I ignored him until last night. That night I was exhausted and fell asleep. I have spent 50 years with such a callous, uncaring man, and not once has he undertaken the work I was assigned to do.".

The judge asked the astonished old man: "Do you have anything to say, father?" The old man barely made it to the bench, leaning on his cane, and shyly began to tell the judge in a whisper, one by one:
"Judge, my son, I have been a gardener for 60 years. One day my Ayşe's neck was very sore, so I took her to the doctor. The doctor said, 'Her neck is arthritic, she shouldn't lie down for too long, otherwise it will get harder and worse, she should interrupt her sleep every night and walk around'. She never listened to the doctor. I didn't say a word. Coincidentally, in those days, this flower started to dry up. I told her: 'If you water this flower late at night, it will pass'.
Every night I woke her up and she watered the flower and I watched her. And every night after she went to bed, I got up and emptied the water out of the pot. Because marigolds don't like to be watered at night, Mr. Judge... And last night... Old age... I couldn't wake her up because I couldn't wake her up. I was very upset that the neck of Ayşe, whom I love more than life itself, might get worse again..."

I liked a presentation by dear Üstün Dökmen very much. He said: "Men are very easy beings. Their mothers take them out of the house with a pat on the head and welcome them with a caress. Oh, my pasha son is here, my lion son is here. Because they are used to being their mother's pasha, their mother's lion."
The man comes home and rings the bell from downstairs. The woman opens the apartment door and returns to the food cooking in the kitchen.
As the man enters through the open door of the apartment, she screams. "I'm home!!! "
As if his wife didn't open the door for him, as if he didn't hear her coming.
"The man's problem is to be welcomed as his mother welcomed him," Dökmen says.
If the woman comes to the door, if she caresses the man's head once, he says, "Oh, my lion husband has come! My pasha husband has come!"
And that's all. What else does the man want?
Every now and then, when you cook kurufasuly, if you say, "I can't make this kurufasuly like my mother-in-law. No one can make this kurufasuly as delicious as she can," that's it.
That's it!
We men are like dough for cookies with the softness of an earlobe.
Even if she is joking, dear Dökmen, this is incredibly true.
And he concludes like this: "One day, 20 years ago, I made meatballs. My wife liked them very much and said I made them better than her. Since that day, I have been making meatballs in our house."
It's all a joke, but it's true. While men are so simple and plain, we women live four seasons in one day. Sometimes even in an hour. Spring, summer, fall, winter. We never know what to laugh and what to cry about. We cry when we laugh and laugh when we cry. In fact, we know us, we know us. According to dear Tamer Dövücü, the founder of the Optimum Balance Model, men are OUTCOME-oriented, while women are WHY? Why? How? When? How much? Who? They are not convinced or at peace without knowing. According to him, this is not something to criticize, it has to do with the chemicals, hormones and secretions of the sexes. The best thing is for all of us to accept each other as we are. Women are more elegant and fragile, they like to be treated kindly and delicately and they expect attention. They are the same with each other and with the opposite sex. That is why, again, women know and understand women best. Tamer Dövücü tells it like this: A woman is watching television and says to a man, "I am very cold". The man says: "Go get a cardigan!"
The woman wants to be taken care of, cared for, noticed. That's what she wants, otherwise she knows how to go and put on the cardigan...
So men are results-oriented. We have to tell them what we want directly, without insinuating. No fudging, no prolonging, short... Short and clear...

Mukaddes Pekin Başdil

Researcher-Author

Source: Denizli Haber