If man were alone in this world, I wonder if he would care about how he looks, his appearance, his abilities, his possessions? I sometimes wonder if all this would have any meaning. Would everything have meaning because we are in contact with the people we live with? How would our appearance, our behaviors, our actions be if we were alone in this world? We in the minds of others, that is, our image, is not our purpose in life, but to be effective in communication, to be trusted, to establish an emotional bond, to be liked, appreciated, cared about, approved are indispensable among our basic goals. People have some subconsciously established intellectual patterns, good or bad judgments about us. Our clothes, our behavior, the way we speak, our body language, our lifestyle, our profession, our socio-economic status create certain impressions in other people and they make judgments about us. Like Nasrettin Hodja offering food to his fur coat, sometimes these judgments can be offensive and hurtful, but they do not necessarily reflect the truth. In general, there is a prejudice in the world that is wrong. People who are beautiful, even those with the golden ratio, are thought to be the most truthful, the most convincing, the most honest. This is the prejudicial deception of appearance. First impressions are always important because we have no other chance to make a first impression. That is why this first impression never goes away. Even though the last impression is as important as the first impression, it cannot be as effective as the first impression. Our image, sincerity, spontaneity, authenticity, intelligence and accomplishment are the most effective first impressions. And of course our appearance. As Mevlana said, "People are greeted by their appearance, but they are passed by their thoughts and minds". Appearance is very valuable in terms of first impression and image, but it does not mean anything on its own. Sometimes I see such beautiful women in the media, they have the golden ratio; "wow!" I say, "how beautifully God has created them." And then they start talking, much to my disappointment. "Ah! I wish she had never opened her mouth!" I feel sorry for her intelligence, her mind, her emptiness, her patheticness. "I wish he had read a little and learned something," I say reproachfully. Our status, our mastery, our power of professional influence affects the way we are perceived. It is possible to be loved, respected, trusted and sought after, and vice versa. Our positive or negative images of the past affect the present. But our personal image in the present is important. This is why it is important to stay connected to social life and to be constantly renewed. For people who are out of social life, it doesn't matter what others think or feel. They don't care about a good impression or image. Since we have to live together, we have to be attentive in our behavior and care about others. First impressions always influence the next ones, but last impressions are also very important. The last sight, the last word, the last idea, the last gesture is as important as the first impression, if not more important than the first impression, as it will not be forgotten until the next encounter. All the possibilities of communication should be utilized and the most accurate and impressive expressions should be chosen. How one sees oneself is as important as how others see oneself and how one wants to present oneself. Dressing according to the occasion, going to a funeral, going to an invitation, knowing when, where and what to wear, dressing formally, sportily, elegantly or seriously, our traditional or modern clothing style are among the characteristics that reflect our image and social class. Our body language, our clothes, where, when and what we wear, our posture, our eyes, our tone of voice affect our image as much as our first and last impressions. Of course, our image is not a sine qua non for being happy in life and living in peace, but it is one of the reasons why social people are happy. All of this leads to one place in the end. To be human, always and everywhere, always and necessarily. Being human is not as difficult as one might think. It is being yourself and knowing yourself...
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