Charlie Chaplin (Charlo) said, "If I speak, only those who speak English will understand me, but anyone can understand a silent movie, and the world is not all about America," and indeed, with the effective use of body language, he silently and deeply made a name for himself all over the world. His clothes, his famous cane and his unique hat are etched in the memory of the whole world, and in four corners of the world

He was able to make millions of people who did not share the same culture or speak the same language laugh at the same time. Because he was a good observer, even if they were in different geographies and had different histories, places and cultures, the only thing he learned was: "No matter where and at what time; people were always the same people!" He did just that; he observed and imitated. He used his body language and gestures very well and achieved incredible success.

Humans learn to communicate with the mother and the environment while still in the womb. From the moment they are born, this communication is differentiated and multiplied. They learn not to misbehave or touch a harmful object from their mother's gaze during a visit. Even when they want to try something new, they look at their mother to gauge her reaction.

In fact, our proverb "people get along by talking", however true it may be, does not seem to reflect the truth.

Clothes, the colors we choose, the accessories we use, glasses, our living spaces, voice color, tone of voice, gestures and facial expressions, space and time, the tools and equipment used, the food we eat, what we drink, our body shape, physical appearance, hand-arm movements, eye-glance, posture, head movements and many other things give the other person information about us. While we give information to the other person through all these, we can similarly form an opinion about the other person with the same method.

According to the results of years of research and surveys by scientists: In interpersonal communication, communication without using any words and without speaking is about 93%. 55% of this is body language, 38% is tone of voice and 7% is the words used. In other words, in our interpersonal communication, we are actually in non-verbal communication to a very large extent. I even had the chance to try it one-on-one during a work shop (you can try it too); we said "I love you!" to each other with different tones and pronunciations, silently, loudly, shouting, insulting, angry, angry, whispering, laughing, laughing, mocking and in many ways. It's just one sentence, the same sentence, but the way it makes you feel, it's incredible...

Mukaddes Pekin Başdil

Researcher-Author

Source: Denizli Haber